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Click. “Hello?” A not so happy parent had just hung up on me.  They wanted to see if their child could opt out of the Confirmation retreat because of the distance we were traveling.  I said, “Sorry, if there was a different conflict I could help you, but not wanting to go isn’t a legitimate excuse.”  

Being a people pleaser leads to burnout.  In fact people pleasers really have no place in youth ministry.  In the end they only: Continue Reading…

Advice For Rookies

March 19, 2014 — Leave a comment

As I go through the process of writing a book I find myself reminiscing an array of moments.  Many of them are filled with joy and then some filled with pain.  It’s especially during those first few years where I faced some of my toughest moments.

One thing that helped me get through the early years was the advice and wisdom from veteran youth ministers.  It was through their love and care that I was able to grow into the leader I am today.  It was with their loving guidance that they showed me to: Continue Reading…

I love youth ministers, because they are my people.  I love talking shop and sharing moments.  And then there are the times when I need a break.  That’s when I go outside my network.

It’s good to network within your industry and it’s good to go beyond it.  To network effectively outside your paradigm, isn’t as simple as showing up at someone else’s gathering.  It takes knowing who to connect with and what to take out of it. Continue Reading…

Two, then three and then four years would pass by and I was frustrated.  I was frustrated because I wondered, “When would we arrive?” Meaning, when would we be a top-level ministry that could go into cruise control?  It would take another year before I knew the answer.

The answer is that you never “ARRIVE” in fact your ministry.  The same goes when it comes to your leadership.  Both should constantly be growing.  If you think you’ve arrived then you’ll only be in a state of denial.  If you stay at that level your ministry will eventually breakdown and die.  To keep it moving to a new level you need to focus on your leadership and: Continue Reading…

“Shouldn’t we go this way?” shouted someone from the back.  “No, I think it wants us to go right.” We were at a crossroads on the Appalachian Trail wondering which way would take us to our destination.  No one was willing to step up and lead.  It would take a half an hour before we made the right decision.

No matter the journey it’s important to have a leader.  You want to make sure you are following someone who helps you achieve goals and move towards a vision.  If you are that leader you want to make sure others know you are worth following.  

In youth ministry you have to be that leader.  If people do not trust you or second guess you then you will only find disaster.  To be that person you need to avoid certain attitudes and pitfalls.  That means never saying, thinking or acting like: Continue Reading…