Youth ministry can easily become a 24/7 operation. Office hours are filled with planning and organizing. Then there are the meetings and if you throw in being “on call” if a parent or teen needs you life can get crazy quickly. But, that’s not healthy.
A healthy youth ministry has a healthy youth minister. A healthy youth minister is someone who is rested, refreshed and ready to go. To find that rest, peace of mind and build margin you need to learn how to turn it off by:
A young guy fresh out of college once asked me, “Is it possible for someone to pursue a career in parish ministry and start a family full time?”
It’s a question that I struggled with when I first started on this journey and it’s a question I still wrestle with today. Being married in ministry is challenging, but doable as long as you:
You ever feel like a punching bag? Maybe it’s after a parent has just torn you apart, the pastor isn’t happy with your progress or a teen literally punched you. You want to fight back, but you just don’t know how.
The balance between humility and humiliation can sometimes be blurry. You want to embrace the struggle that comes with church ministry, but the emotional, mental and sometimes physical pain can be too much.
You don’t have to work in ministry long enough to know that there will be some really rough moments. It’s during those moments when you might consider leaving.
But, is it the right decision? Going through that discernment is difficult but necessary. Anytime you feel tired, burned out or jaded you need to process the situation.