Last week Church of the Nativity hosted the Matter Conference. In my breakout Commissioning the Next Generation I was asked, “What do you do to prevent teenagers from walking away from church after Confirmation?”
While we have not fixed the program we’ve realized that there are some systems that have needed to change. By changing the systems we are giving people clarity and setting them up for a more enriching experience. The three systems we’ve addressed that have caused the biggest impact are:
When I first started in youth ministry I struggled to serve parents. Part of that struggle was the fact that I was intimidated by them. The other part was that I had no plan to involve them in my ministry.
Working with parents in your youth ministry is challenging, but necessary. Without parents you’ll struggle to have an impact on the next generation. That’s why I’m excited to introduce to you the new book Team Up! The Family Ministry Playbook for Partnering With Parents by my good friend Phil Bell.
Getting involved in youth ministry can be intimidating. And if potential and new ministers walk in feeling uncomfortable they won’t want to return.
The solution is creating steps to help them ease into your program. The more comfortable they feel the more confident they will become. To help your new ministers build that confidence you need to:
Youth ministry is messy in so many ways. It’s messy because it involves relationships. And because it’s messy it’s tiring and draining. But, sometimes we make it more messy than it should be.
If you want to make youth ministry less messy you need to know what you can control and what you cannot. While you cannot control life what you can control are:
If you’ve been in youth ministry (Especially middle school youth ministry) long enough you’ve had those moments. Those moments where something profound is happening and it’s interrupted by THAT KID!
Disruptive teens are a challenge. They are a challenge because they will always be a part of your ministry. The initial reaction is to either kick them out or give up and give them reign. But, the healthiest way is to: