No one had shown up to their small group. I could tell morale for these leaders were at an all time low. No one likes to feel like a failure. The truth is that life happens. And there are many reasons teens will stop showing up.
Whatever you do, do NOT assume there is only one reason to why they won’t show. When you assume you start creating scapegoats which alleviate responsibility from your shoulders. When teens stop showing up or have missed for a while you need to:
I’ll be honest. I have youth ministry environment envy. Whenever I walk into another person’t youth space I think, “Man, why can’t I have that?” We share our space with a variety of groups. It’s been working, but I still dream of the day we have our own.
Fortunately you don’t need your own space to have an irresistible environment. Whether you share or are confined to the catacombs of your church your environments can have a positive impact on your ministry. To have the right environment you just need to:
It breaks my heart when I learn about a former student that has walked away from the church. Questions of, “How did this happen?” and “What could I have done better?” race through my mind. It’s a fear many churches and youth ministers face. No one wants to see teens Graduate Their Faith when they Graduate High School.
While there is no magic bullet you can fight the trend by creating a system that grows disciples. That system begins with:
Even as a parent I still find serving other parents a little overwhelming. One moment they can seem pleasant, the next moment it feels like they are coming at you with a thousand emotions. It can drive a youth minister crazy. If you are intimidated or overwhelmed by parents the problem isn’t them, it’s your strategy for serving them.
A lot of youth ministers (Including myself) have pounded the drum, “PARTNER WITH PARENTS” and “GET THE PARENTS MORE INVOLVED“. Here’s the question:
We can feel like so much needs to get done that we will just let the details suffer. But, that’s not the healthiest approach to have in ministry. In fact each detail matters more than you can imagine.
Details make a difference and they can no longer be ignored. I learned this first hand when my ministry decided to move so that my team could have breathing room.This summer we made the decision to move our high school program on Thursdays from 6:30pm start time to 7pm. The impact in a few weeks has been huge. We are seeing: