It’s heartbreaking when you learn a former teen is no longer going to church. You feel like a failure and wonder, “Could I have done something more?”
It’s easy to beat yourself up, but you have to remember that we all have free will. While you cannot control all of their decision you can have an influence. To cut down on the turnover and encourage teens to stay connected to the church years after they are gone you need to make sure you are:
Parents used to scare me. I used to think they were out to get me because many interactions were filled with criticism, disappointment and stress.
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It’s taken me years of ministry and having kids of my own to realize that parent’s are not looking to pick a fight. Instead they are looking for assistance, insight and guidance when it comes to their own teenager. As youth ministers we need to come alongside of parents by:
Today, I’m happy to introduce a great resource for youth ministers. ParishDesigner.com is a service for youth ministers and parishes looking to promote their events, programs and ministries. Founded by Michael Marchand, he brings years of youth ministry and design experience.
His goal is to:
“Take care of the graphics, so that you can focus on the youth ministry.”
And that’s huge because youth ministry is difficult and we can’t spend time messing with graphics. Instead you need to be focusing on relationships and systems to grow disciples. What I love about ParishDesigner.com is how it:
It’s easy to get comfortable and that’s a good thing, right? It feels good for a while but it doesn’t last forever. The problem with hitting cruise control in youth ministry is you start to lose influence, which means losing purpose.
As a leader you need to look at ways of challenging yourself. That means growing as a leader, learning and making sure your ministry continues to grow. To keep things slightly uncomfortable; yet, highly effective you need to:
I used to obsess about small group curriculum. I was on the search for the content that would change lives and grow the church. The problem is that I was only looking for a piece of the solution. When it comes to small groups it’s not just what you teach, it’s also how you teach it.
If you want your small group leaders to be successful you need to look at them as leaders who build relationships. When you turn the focus from content to relationships you: