All I felt was disappointment. I had asked my student leaders to plan the game for that evening and it was all about them. Teens were disengaged and it was a disaster. That’s when I started to wonder whether student leadership groups were worth it.
The problem is that I had found great teenagers, just with the wrong qualities. They were outgoing, and well liked, but that was not enough. When looking for student leaders you need to make sure they have the right qualities.
That’s not to say only certain teens can lead. It’s that not everyone is ready to. They might lack:
“I just don’t think they really care.” It’s a comment I hear from new youth ministers. They’ll share their frustration regarding a parent’s involvement in their ministry. Sadly they are making a crucial mistake assuming parents do not care. It could not be further from the truth.
Parents care about their teens and that can sometimes be a challenge. Parents will present a miriad of issues. You try to understand them but truth is it’s not that easy. To partner with parents you need to know how to engage them. It also means avoiding these 5 crucial mistakes youth ministers sometimes make. They are:
On Christmas Night in 1776 George Washington lead troops across the Delaware River to surprise the Hessian Troops. This surprise attack set the stage for future victories in Trenton and Princeton. It was one of the moves that saved his militia from complete defeat.
Early on in American History we learn about George Washington and his great leadership. As a country we honor his many traits:
- Integrity, etc.
On this 4th of July we remember not just George Washington but all the great men who took the risk to sign that Declaration of Independence and fought to establish this country.
There is so much you and I can learn from leaders. It’s important to embrace their traits and study their moves. Great leaders are learners so it’s important to model their behavior. For more on leadership click here.
WHAT TRAITS OF LEADERSHIP DO YOU MOST ADMIRE?
I had no clue what I was doing. On my first day of youth ministry I remember just sitting at my desk trying to figure out which tasks to tackle first. Eventually I figured it out. But, that was after a lot of mistakes, failure and heart break.
Starting out in youth ministry can be daunting. You are either thrown into a plethora of programs or you need to start from scratch. So many tasks to tackle and many places to start. If you are not careful you can find yourself overcommitted, overworked and headed towards burnout.
If you are just starting out or looking to start over it’s essential to set a solid foundation. That means tackling certain tasks right away. Such as:
For youth ministers Sunday is your biggest day. It’s the Sabbath. It’s the beginning of your work week. It’s the one time of week when people are coming to you. This means you have huge potential to make an impact. So, what are you going to do with that time?
Believe it or not you do not have to do anything huge. In fact there are several small action steps you can partake on a Sunday in order to have a huge impact. 7 of those small actions that will lead to big impact are: