If you are a leader you will feel lonely. That’s because the decisions, responsibilities and the burden fall on you first. The question you need to answer is, “How am I going to deal with the loneliness?”
No one tells you when you get into ministry that there will be periods where it feels like:
It was a difficult time. A year had gone by and the same 6 teens from the student band were the only ones coming every week to our student program. I felt like a failure. I remember sitting down with my pastor, waiting for him to say, “You’re done.” Instead he told me the biggest secret to growing a ministry:
A part of youth ministry is disappointment. Volunteers will quit when you are already short staffed. Teenager who are growing in faith will hit stumbling blocks. You’ll have parents no show after you’ve spent hours putting together a workshop for their benefit.
While you are allowed to be disappointed and angry, you also need realistic expectations. The goal in youth ministry is to CHALLENGE and ENCOURAGE. The problem is when we set people up to fail and discourage them instead.
To communicate and set realistic expectations you need to:
It breaks my heart when I learn about a former student that has walked away from the church. Questions of, “How did this happen?” and “What could I have done better?” race through my mind. It’s a fear many churches and youth ministers face. No one wants to see teens Graduate Their Faith when they Graduate High School.
While there is no magic bullet you can fight the trend by creating a system that grows disciples. That system begins with:
The Matter Conference at Church of the Nativity in Timonium, Maryland is November 6th and 7th. It’s one of the highlights of our years because it’s a chance for our staff to come alongside other church workers. It’s something you don’t want to miss out on.
It’s so easy to miss out on experiences like Matter because of:
To go to a conference is a sacrifice, but Matter is worth it. It’s a church conference designed for people who are in the trenches of church ministry. It’s a chance for you to grow in your profession and in your faith. At Matter Conference 14 you’ll: