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Advice For Rookies

March 19, 2014 — Leave a comment

As I go through the process of writing a book I find myself reminiscing an array of moments.  Many of them are filled with joy and then some filled with pain.  It’s especially during those first few years where I faced some of my toughest moments.

One thing that helped me get through the early years was the advice and wisdom from veteran youth ministers.  It was through their love and care that I was able to grow into the leader I am today.  It was with their loving guidance that they showed me to: Continue Reading…

I’m addicted…to Flappy Bird.  I’m afraid to delete it because I know I’ll never get it back (Here’s why).  Why do I love the game so much? It’s mindless, simple and great at clearing the mind.  Despite it’s fun, I still need something to refuel my empty tank.

It’s perfectly normal to feel exhausted after a day of youth ministry.  You are invested in relationships, studying Truth and fighting spiritual battles.  How you wind down from a challenging job is important.  And, while games like Flappy Bird can help ease the burden, it won’t refuel you for the next day. Continue Reading…

It breaks your heart, when a teen opens up and shares with you that they’re hurting.  It changes the way you look at youth ministry.  Almost like they’ve dropped a bomb on your world.

Youth ministry is fun and easy when it comes to playing games.  It’s inspiring when a teen shares his story.  When a teen reveals a deep secret, it’s like a bomb has gone off in the room.  It’s a moment where you can celebrate that a teen trusts you.  It’s also a moment that is so pivotal in a teen’s faith journey. Continue Reading…

“Shouldn’t we go this way?” shouted someone from the back.  “No, I think it wants us to go right.” We were at a crossroads on the Appalachian Trail wondering which way would take us to our destination.  No one was willing to step up and lead.  It would take a half an hour before we made the right decision.

No matter the journey it’s important to have a leader.  You want to make sure you are following someone who helps you achieve goals and move towards a vision.  If you are that leader you want to make sure others know you are worth following.  

In youth ministry you have to be that leader.  If people do not trust you or second guess you then you will only find disaster.  To be that person you need to avoid certain attitudes and pitfalls.  That means never saying, thinking or acting like: Continue Reading…

It felt like people were conspiring against me.  It was another email from a volunteer saying, “I can’t make it, something came up.”  I was ready to fire them all and just give up on youth ministry. I was obviously frustrated.

Managing volunteers can be one of the most challenging aspects of student ministry.  You are dealing with free labor.  They have other commitments that take priority (i.e. family).  When life gets busy for them, you will be the first to go. Continue Reading…