Does your family come first? Take a moment and think about it. I’m willing to bet there have been times when you’ve had to choose work over them. I’m sure there have been those moments where you unintentionally took them for granted.
If that’s happened to you join the club. It happens and sometimes it’s unavoidable. However, if you want to stay in ministry for the long haul you have to learn how to navigate family and work. A few lessons I’ve learned to help me do this are to:
Maybe it’s been a parent chewing you out or a volunteer giving you critiques you didn’t want to hear, we’ve all faced criticism that leaves us feeling empty.
While you might want to fight back the best thing you can do is stay positive. Stay positive and develop a plan that will help you diffuse the situation. 5 Steps that have helped me stay positive are:
You ever feel like a punching bag? Maybe it’s after a parent has just torn you apart, the pastor isn’t happy with your progress or a teen literally punched you. You want to fight back, but you just don’t know how.
The balance between humility and humiliation can sometimes be blurry. You want to embrace the struggle that comes with church ministry, but the emotional, mental and sometimes physical pain can be too much.
Not many people like conflict; however, it’s inevitable. It might be the angry parent barraging you for not communicating or the pastor chewing you out for losing $3200 on a fundraiser.
Conflict is a part of life because life is filled with changes, mistakes and growth opportunities. You can try to hide from conflict, but not for long. It will find you and beat you unless you:
I ate a lot of cookies this Christmas. I’m not joking, I ate A LOT of cookies and on New Year’s Eve I said, “Enough.” But then on January 1st I had some more cookies. Starting off the year can be tough.
As a youth minister you might be looking at the New Year as a second start to what began last fall. While you are probably ready to set goals, if you want to get the most out of this year then you will need to make sure you: