You might not want to admit to it, but your religious ed isn’t doing what you want it to do. You decide the only solution is to overhaul the entire program, but how?
First, make sure you are not alone on this. Ask your team, consult your pastor and make sure you just aren’t feeling stuck. To overhaul your religious ed and create a real discipleship program you need to:
I grew up only a few minutes away from George Washington’s Headquarters in Morristown, NJ. I enjoyed the legend the came with this great leader. Whether it was crossing the Delaware to surprise the Brits or delivering an ultimatum to the French in the French and Indian War.
While youth ministry might not require you to lead a group of teens across a freezing river in the dead of winter, it will present some leadership moments.
If you want to be a leader that people will follow and trust, then you need to embrace certain traits. For example leaders:
No one, especially my pastor, likes to be caught off guard. Surprises allow emotions to take over and it causes the situation to grow complex. When my pastor had to learn from a separate source that I lost money on a fundraiser, he definitely showed and expressed his disappointment.
It was a difficult moment. One where I wanted to cry, yell and hide. Instead I just stood there as he chewed me out. That night I didn’t know how I was going to move on from that moment. Fortunately, the next day was a new day and it was new beginning. He and I were able to resolve the situation and move forward.
It’s not easy when your boss chews you out. Not sure if you are defensive, but fighting back isn’t the way to go. Maybe you just take it like a sponge, but holding on too long will break you apart. When you get chewed or called out by your leader the best thing to do is:
If you need to meet with me make it worth my time. I’m a meeting snob, because I have little margin and do not want it compromised. I want to leave a meeting feeling inspired, and ready to take on what was discussed.
I know I’m a little demanding when it comes to meeting integrity; however, they can be the death of your organization if not done correctly. You are asking people to sacrifice an important commodity (Time) that can not be returned.
I usually do not pick up my phone on Friday nights, but this time was different. It was a coworker explaining to me that there was a teen in crisis and I should lean in. I was reluctant at first, not because it was an “Off Night” but because the situation was intimidating.
If your ministry is effective it’s going to deal with a lot of painful situations. You will lose teenagers to death, you will discover dark stories and people will rely on you for hope. It is difficult and can be intimidating; however, your presence can be a blessing.
What you need to do is make sure it doesn’t take over your life. That’s where the pushback to getting in the mess will be. First, if you feel intimidated or overwhelmed that’s okay. What you need to do is respond to the crisis by: