Youth ministry can feel like an island. Even after 10 years of youth ministry their are moments where I feel alone, and abandoned by the rest of the church. It stinks, and can be debilitating.
Maybe you’ve felt this way, and if you have I’m here to tell you that you are not alone. You are not alone in youth ministry and the way you can combat that feeling is by:
On the latest Rebuilt podcast, Tom Corcoran and I respond to an email from a listener regarding a frustrating situation. This person wants to grow, but the rest of the team isn’t ready. Or at least that’s how it’s perceived.
There will be moments in your ministry when it feels like no one is on board. You will find times when the results do not meet your expectations. The worst is that these moments will pile up on one another. To move forward you need to:
There is something about youth ministry that makes us feel completely alone. You could be surrounded by hundreds of teens and dozens of volunteers. But, that feeling of isolation will sneak up on you.
If you feel isolated or alone it’s important to know that you are not alone. Everyday there are thousands of men and women in the trenches doing what you are doing. To feel that solidarity and battle the isolation you need to make sure you:
Some nights I just want to drown my face in a Chick-fil-a Cookies & Creme Milkshake. Those nights usually come in the midst of a season where youth ministry feels like a job. Instead of enduring the pain I succumb to pressure and devour the milkshake. For a few moments I’m free and then reality comes right back.
There will be seasons when you just have to endure. The pain might be the result of:
- Volunteer Turnover
- A Parent Who Chews You Out
- Declining Attendance
- Tension With The Pastor
Doesn’t matter what the source of the problem is, life is difficult. To endure the difficult seasons and come out stronger on the other side, it’s important to:
In my third year of youth ministry I hit a dark period where I felt isolated and alone in ministry. There was a lot of work piling up on my plate and instead of sharing those burdens I took them on my own. I began to resent those around me, which pushed me down a path of loneliness. Finally, I broke down and found myself venting to a few of my volunteers. They stepped up, shared the burden and surrounded me with love. I was free of isolation.
Youth ministry is not meant to be done in isolation; however, it’s so easy for a youth minister to find themselves in the midst of it. You begin to feel like no one cares about you or your ministry. Resentment, anger and frustration grow in your heart and what started out as a love has now become an annoyance. To escape the dangers of isolation you need to make sure you: