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Click. “Hello?” A not so happy parent had just hung up on me.  They wanted to see if their child could opt out of the Confirmation retreat because of the distance we were traveling.  I said, “Sorry, if there was a different conflict I could help you, but not wanting to go isn’t a legitimate excuse.”  

Being a people pleaser leads to burnout.  In fact people pleasers really have no place in youth ministry.  In the end they only: Continue Reading…

I was jealous.  In my third year of ministry we booked a guest speaker on purity.  Everyone was engaged and into it.  I couldn’t believe it.  I would constantly struggle to get their attention.  I wondered, “What was the difference?” He spoke with authority.

It can be difficult to engage teenagers.  To compete with what is going on their lives is a challenge.  They are constantly told one thing over another and need help sorting it out.  Content is important, but it’s not the only thing.  If you do not know how to deliver your message with authority no one will listen.  

To speak with authority means to have control and command over your audience.  In other words people are fully engaged.  When they are engaged they will listen.  To speak with authority you need to: Continue Reading…

Money can stress me out.  I don’t like that it does, but when something breaks or a life change that involves money happens, I can freak out.  I love ministry, but life is expensive and there have been times when I’ve wondered, “Is this really worth it?”

It’s no secret that a youth minister’s salary is nothing to brag about.  But, money isn’t why you got into youth ministry.  You got involved  Continue Reading…

I love youth ministers, because they are my people.  I love talking shop and sharing moments.  And then there are the times when I need a break.  That’s when I go outside my network.

It’s good to network within your industry and it’s good to go beyond it.  To network effectively outside your paradigm, isn’t as simple as showing up at someone else’s gathering.  It takes knowing who to connect with and what to take out of it. Continue Reading…

Two, then three and then four years would pass by and I was frustrated.  I was frustrated because I wondered, “When would we arrive?” Meaning, when would we be a top-level ministry that could go into cruise control?  It would take another year before I knew the answer.

The answer is that you never “ARRIVE” in fact your ministry.  The same goes when it comes to your leadership.  Both should constantly be growing.  If you think you’ve arrived then you’ll only be in a state of denial.  If you stay at that level your ministry will eventually breakdown and die.  To keep it moving to a new level you need to focus on your leadership and: Continue Reading…