How To Make Youth Ministry Less Messy

Youth ministry is messy in so many ways.  It’s messy because it involves relationships.  And because it’s messy it’s tiring and draining.  But, sometimes we make it more messy than it should be.

If you want to make youth ministry less messy you need to know what you can control and what you cannot.  While you cannot control life what you can control are:

What To Do With Difficult Parents

It’s easy to go online and find a rant from some teacher, or youth minister griping about parents.  The comments range from, “They just don’t care!”  to “They are suffocating their kids!”  Parents are challenging, but necessary.

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Courtesy of symphony of love/Creative Commons License

If you want your ministry to be strong you need a healthy approach to parents, even the difficult ones.  Instead of pushing them away, look at loving them.  That means:

4 Keys To Building Authentic Relationships Through Your Ministry


While each teen in your community is different there is probably one thing they have in common.  Every teen in your community desires to be connected into a real and authentic relationship.

The problem is that many of them don’t know where to find it.  They search in school, in clubs and online.  They should find it in your ministry.  Your ministry needs to be a place of authenticity because that will help teens connect into a personal relationship with Christ.  To create that place you need to:

Where Your Focus Should Be For Discipleship

I could finally breathe.  Mass had started for our students receiving the Sacrament of Confirmation.  The focus was now on them.  I could just sit back and enjoy.

Confirmation Mass 2014


I wasn’t always a fan.  In fact I used to resent Confirmation preparation.  It was attracting too many demanding consumers.  People just wanted to get in and out.  It also brought along:

What You Need To Know Before You Get Married

There is no union so precious and so fruitful between husband and wife as 
that of holy devotion, in which they should mutually lead and sustain each other. - St. Francis de Sales, the Devout Life

A week ago my wife, Kate and I celebrated 7 years of marriage.  I’m happy to say that our relationship is stronger than it was when we first got married.  Granted, in the honeymoon phase nothing can go wrong, but then you have that first fight.