What To Do With Difficult Parents

It’s easy to go online and find a rant from some teacher, or youth minister griping about parents.  The comments range from, “They just don’t care!”  to “They are suffocating their kids!”  Parents are challenging, but necessary.

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Courtesy of symphony of love/Creative Commons License

If you want your ministry to be strong you need a healthy approach to parents, even the difficult ones.  Instead of pushing them away, look at loving them.  That means:

4 Keys To Building Authentic Relationships Through Your Ministry


While each teen in your community is different there is probably one thing they have in common.  Every teen in your community desires to be connected into a real and authentic relationship.

The problem is that many of them don’t know where to find it.  They search in school, in clubs and online.  They should find it in your ministry.  Your ministry needs to be a place of authenticity because that will help teens connect into a personal relationship with Christ.  To create that place you need to:

Where Your Focus Should Be For Discipleship

I could finally breathe.  Mass had started for our students receiving the Sacrament of Confirmation.  The focus was now on them.  I could just sit back and enjoy.

Confirmation Mass 2014


I wasn’t always a fan.  In fact I used to resent Confirmation preparation.  It was attracting too many demanding consumers.  People just wanted to get in and out.  It also brought along:

What You Need To Know Before You Get Married

There is no union so precious and so fruitful between husband and wife as 
that of holy devotion, in which they should mutually lead and sustain each other. - St. Francis de Sales, the Devout Life

A week ago my wife, Kate and I celebrated 7 years of marriage.  I’m happy to say that our relationship is stronger than it was when we first got married.  Granted, in the honeymoon phase nothing can go wrong, but then you have that first fight.  

Get Your Pastor On Board

I’ve got a great pastor, and we’ve got a healthy relationship.  Unfortunately, it has not always been smooth sailing.  There have been times when I’ve disrespected his authority by chewing him out in front of others.  There have been times when he’s made decisions without hearing me out.  What’s gotten us through is a commitment to communicate and work through the tension.  In the end the results have not only been a great relationship but a powerful advocacy for the student program.

A question I hear often is, “How do I get my pastor on board?”  It’s a question filled with emotion and tension.  You want what you do to matter to him and if it appears like it doesn’t the feelings of isolation increase.  It’s not that he doesn’t care, in fact he probably does greatly.  The problem is that there is some drop in the communication that bring unnecessary tension to the relationship.  To resolve this and bring him on board you need to: