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I was jealous.  In my third year of ministry we booked a guest speaker on purity.  Everyone was engaged and into it.  I couldn’t believe it.  I would constantly struggle to get their attention.  I wondered, “What was the difference?” He spoke with authority.

It can be difficult to engage teenagers.  To compete with what is going on their lives is a challenge.  They are constantly told one thing over another and need help sorting it out.  Content is important, but it’s not the only thing.  If you do not know how to deliver your message with authority no one will listen.  

To speak with authority means to have control and command over your audience.  In other words people are fully engaged.  When they are engaged they will listen.  To speak with authority you need to: Continue Reading…

Are You Being Clear?

October 30, 2013 — Leave a comment

I used to grow frustrated every time we held an event or meeting and no one would show up.  I thought the announcement was clear.  We had date, time, and location.  What else could someone need?  I began to grow frustrated and made assumptions like:

  • Parents do not care.
  • Teens are selfish with their time.
  • Volunteers are not as sold out.

Those assumptions were unfair.  The reality was that my message was not clear. 

As a leader you need to be sure that what you communicate is being received and absorbed.  While you might feel as if you are doing that, you never can be too sure.  That is why you need to be clear on what you are communicating.  Never assume you are being clear because you could be making a mess of the situation.  That’s because you are: Continue Reading…

The first message I ever gave felt like a home run; however, it’s a little embarrassing when I reread it.  I had no point, I went on and on and on and on.  It was a wonder that I was allowed to speak the next week.  My problem was lack of experience and taking a lot of things for granted.  I assumed that speaking to teenagers was easy.  I thought I knew my subject.  I did not see the message as one of the most important aspects of my job.

Whether you call it a talk, a message or a speech, speaking to teenagers is very important.  It’s a way of casting vision and motivating teenagers to embrace their faith journey.  Your message tells a story and helps shape their perspective on how to approach life.  That’s why it should be: Continue Reading…

One Church One Message

June 24, 2013 — 1 Comment

When I started out in ministry I outsourced a lot of my messages.  What that meant is that I would purchase message series and adapt them for my program.  As the years moved on I became more comfortable with message development.  Our message series were powerful, the students engaged in the topics and conversations thrived in small groups.  There was nothing apparently wrong with how we were developing messages; however, it wasn’t until we adopted the value of one church one message that our student ministries really started to go deeper.

As a youth minister you are always looking ways to partner up with parents and go deeper with students.  While communicating what is happening in your student ministry is important one of the best ways to bring the family together is through a one church one message approach.  This approach basically allows: Continue Reading…

Communication is key.  I learned this early on in my ministry when I couldn’t figure out why people weren’t responding to my messages, emails, etc.  I grew frustrated wondering, “Why aren’t people getting back to me?”  It wasn’t until I was talking to a veteran youth worker that he reminded me of a basic communication practice, “If you only announce it once, chances are the majority of people won’t hear it.”  

There is so much communication that needs to happen in youth ministry.  Whether it’s the bottom line in your message or informing parents of an upcoming workshop, you need to get the word out.  When you communicate correctly you get your initiatives across and build momentum. Of all the responsibilities that a youth minister has, your communication skills are amongst the most importants.  So, how do you improve your communication?  Here are 5 basic practices I use: Continue Reading…