You ever feel like a punching bag? Maybe it’s after a parent has just torn you apart, the pastor isn’t happy with your progress or a teen literally punched you. You want to fight back, but you just don’t know how.
The balance between humility and humiliation can sometimes be blurry. You want to embrace the struggle that comes with church ministry, but the emotional, mental and sometimes physical pain can be too much.
You don’t have to work in ministry long enough to know that there will be some really rough moments. It’s during those moments when you might consider leaving.
But, is it the right decision? Going through that discernment is difficult but necessary. Anytime you feel tired, burned out or jaded you need to process the situation.
After my year of volunteering I needed a job that could pay the bills and keep me from moving back home. That’s when I found a position as a middle school youth minister. My initial thought was, “I can do this for 2 years while I figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life.”
Over a decade later I wouldn’t change what I do. I love youth ministry and I love working for the local church. Often I get asked, “How did you afford it considering you have a family?” The truth is that it wasn’t always easy, but it is possible.
Vision and strategy are key to important to your ministry. But, even if your vision is clear and your strategy is solid it can still be derailed by one thing: YOUR ATTITUDE.
Youth ministry is a grind and sometimes that shows. It’s okay to be human; however, when a bad day becomes a pattern it can become a reason people stop investing in your ministry. To make sure your attitude doesn’t become a problem you need to guard your heart from:
On Monday I had to say goodbye to a very special person. A former student of mine was laid to rest and it was one of the most painful experiences I’ve ever had. It doesn’t matter how long you do ministry losing a student hurts.
When someone young dies it’s not just the family who feels it, but the entire community. While you don’t want to think about these situations it’s important to be prepared. As a youth minister you need to make sure than when someone young dies that you: