No one had shown up to their small group. I could tell morale for these leaders were at an all time low. No one likes to feel like a failure. The truth is that life happens. And there are many reasons teens will stop showing up.
Whatever you do, do NOT assume there is only one reason to why they won’t show. When you assume you start creating scapegoats which alleviate responsibility from your shoulders. When teens stop showing up or have missed for a while you need to:
It breaks my heart when I learn about a former student that has walked away from the church. Questions of, “How did this happen?” and “What could I have done better?” race through my mind. It’s a fear many churches and youth ministers face. No one wants to see teens Graduate Their Faith when they Graduate High School.
While there is no magic bullet you can fight the trend by creating a system that grows disciples. That system begins with:
Even as a parent I still find serving other parents a little overwhelming. One moment they can seem pleasant, the next moment it feels like they are coming at you with a thousand emotions. It can drive a youth minister crazy. If you are intimidated or overwhelmed by parents the problem isn’t them, it’s your strategy for serving them.
A lot of youth ministers (Including myself) have pounded the drum, “PARTNER WITH PARENTS” and “GET THE PARENTS MORE INVOLVED“. Here’s the question:
Time is precious, yet we mismanage it all the time. With more time we could reach more teenagers. With more time we could build a better program. With more time we could reach more of our goals.
But you only have 24 hours. Instead of wishing for more time you need to learn how to maximize what you already have. That means having a system and then engaging it. Many times people do not know where to start, so I have 5 time savers (And a free giveaway below) I use to maximize my capacity:
You know small groups have a huge impact on your ministry. The idea of starting a program is daunting. But, the real hurdles come when you lead one.
When you oversee the program it’s about a strong strategy, vision and mission. When you get into the trenches it gets really messy. And the reason leading a group can get messy is because: